- Finding what gives me satisfaction -- Minds out of the gutters, folks! Satisfaction comes in many forms and I want to find things that nurture me and feed me. This could be tied to the job search but it could also come from elsewhere....if I knew the details, it wouldn't be on the list!!
- Getting to my physical best -- Like many folks, I have a goal weight in my head. I doubt that I'll ever stop caring about the digits on the scale. But I'd really like to work on framing it differently and achieving a body that is healthy and balanced. I want to know it is a body I work to maintain but also one that I can live in peace with and that also allows me to enjoy life. It means not abusing myself with binges but also not beating myself up if I slip. It doesn't mean "perfection"....I don't want to live a life without some indulgence. My physical best is about balance.
- Nurturing my relationships -- Of course, the relationship with MM is a big one, but it isn't the only one. I want to enjoy the people in my life and have relationships that bring joy and strength to both me and the others involved. I want to take each person as an individual and respect each relationship with that in mind.
- Giving back -- I'm not sure what the best way is for me, but I do want to feel like I am an asset to the world around me and that I make a difference. I look at this very broadly....it could be financial support or in-person volunteer work but it could also be supporting others going through battles that I've also endured. I know my e-buddies help/ed me with so many fights and I'd like to do the same for others who feel alone in their battles.
- Loving myself -- Again, folks, minds out of the gutters!! I can own a few of my strengths, but I know I'm harsh on myself. I often say that we should never treat ourselves any worse than we'd treat our dearest friends. I want to work on LIVING that, a process that means being honest about my weaknesses when necessary but also owning my strengths and taking care of my inner and outer self.
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
the anti-resolution rambler: working on me
I confess...I am not a fan of New Year's resolutions. I have rambled about it before, but I think change comes when it is ready rather than when a calendar flips. I am, however, realizing that sometimes external cues can be cause for evaluation. For me, my birthday tends to do that more than the calendar flip, but the timing is close since I flip to the next year less than three weeks before the calendar. I'm not really thinking in terms of make-or-break goals but more "things to work on in year 34." It is, I think, a more fluid concept. I hope that I'll continue to evaluate as the year progresses, but a few things I want to focus on as I continue to evolve and grow: